Some things in life are better on repeat—like your favorite comfort show, a go-to playlist, or your daily skincare routine. But when it comes to your bedroom escapades, variety is the spice of life. Repeating the same routine can lead to monotony, no matter how steamy it once was.
“Many couples fall into predictable patterns, adopting a routine sexual script,” says Rachel Needle, PsyD, a licensed psychologist and co-director of the Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. “But passion often thrives on novelty and excitement. Changing things up can rekindle romance.”
Exploring new positions can also deepen emotional intimacy and foster trust, notes Shawntres Parks, PhD, LMFT, a marriage and family therapist. Trying new moves encourages vulnerability and strengthens your connection in and out of the bedroom. Not sure where to start? Here are 10 mind-blowing positions to add to your list and elevate your intimate experiences.
1. Side-by-Side 69
- How to do it: Both partners lie on their sides, mouths aligned with each other’s genitals. Lift a leg for easier access if desired.
- Benefits: Combines the intimacy of spooning with mutual oral stimulation.
- Make it hotter: Use a sex pillow for support, or take turns adding manual stimulation for extra pleasure.
2. Corkscrew
- How to do it: The receiver lies on their side near the edge of the bed, resting on one hip and forearm, while keeping their thighs pressed together. The giver stands and enters from behind.
- Benefits: A snug fit enhances sensations for both partners.
- Make it hotter: The receiver can thrust their hips to sync with the giver’s movements.
3. The Butterfly
- How to do it: The receiver lies on their back at the edge of a bed or bench, legs spread, while the giver stands or kneels between their thighs.
- Benefits: Allows deep penetration with full control over angles and rhythm.
- Make it hotter: Use a pillow under the receiver’s hips for elevation and explore temperature play with ice or warm oils.
4. Pretzel Dip
- How to do it: The receiver lies on their side, with the giver kneeling between their legs. The receiver’s top leg rests on the giver’s thigh.
- Benefits: Combines the deep penetration of doggy style with eye contact for intimacy.
- Make it hotter: Incorporate nipple stimulation or clitoral play with a toy or hands.
5. Doggy Style
- How to do it: The receiver gets on all fours while the giver kneels behind.
- Benefits: Provides deep penetration and optimal G-spot stimulation.
- Make it hotter: Enhance sensations with temperature play, such as running an ice cube down the receiver’s spine.
6. Flatiron
- How to do it: The receiver lies facedown, legs straight and hips slightly raised. The giver enters from behind.
- Benefits: Creates a snug fit, enhancing sensations for both partners.
- Make it hotter: Add light touches or kisses to the receiver’s neck and shoulders.
7. G-Whiz
- How to do it: The receiver lies on their back, legs resting on the giver’s shoulders. The giver enters from the front.
- Benefits: Elevating the legs narrows the vaginal canal, enhancing G-spot stimulation.
- Make it hotter: The giver can rock the receiver gently for a rhythmic sensation.
8. Cowgirl
- How to do it: The receiver straddles the giver, facing forward.
- Benefits: The partner on top controls depth and pace, making it ideal for clitoral stimulation.
- Make it hotter: Experiment with grinding motions rather than thrusting for heightened sensitivity.
9. Reverse Cowgirl
- How to do it: Similar to Cowgirl, but the receiver faces away from the giver.
- Benefits: Offers a unique visual perspective and allows deep penetration.
- Make it hotter: Use mirrors to enhance the visual appeal.
10. Lotus
- How to do it: The giver sits cross-legged, while the receiver straddles them, wrapping their legs around the giver.
- Benefits: Encourages intimacy with deep eye contact and full-body closeness.
- Make it hotter: Sync your breathing for a more connected experience.
