Using sex toys during partnered sex can enhance intimacy and pleasure. Here’s how to incorporate them into your experience:
1. Communicate with Your Partner
- Discuss Boundaries: Talk openly about comfort levels, preferences, and boundaries before introducing toys.
- Choose Together: Select a toy that excites both partners and suits your dynamic.
- Keep It Positive: Frame the use of toys as a way to enhance, not replace, intimacy.
2. Start Slowly
- Introduce the toy during foreplay to build comfort and excitement.
- Begin with smaller, simpler toys like bullet vibrators, cock rings, or feathers before moving to more complex ones.
3. Use Lubrication
- Apply lubricant to reduce friction and enhance comfort, especially for penetrative toys.
- Use water-based lubricant if the toy is silicone to avoid material degradation.
4. Incorporate the Toy
Here are a few ways to use different toys during sex:
For External Stimulation:
- Bullet Vibrator or Clitoral Stimulator:
- Hold it against the clitoris or other erogenous zones (e.g., nipples) during intercourse.
- Alternate who uses it to create mutual stimulation.
For Penetrative Stimulation:
- Dildo or Vibrator:
- Use it for vaginal or anal penetration while your partner stimulates you elsewhere (manually, orally, or with another toy).
- Involve the toy during positions that allow access, like missionary or doggy style.
For Mutual Pleasure:
- Couples’ Toys (e.g., Wearable Vibrators):
- Wear a toy designed for simultaneous stimulation (e.g., vibrating cock ring or U-shaped vibrator).
- These can provide sensations for both partners during penetration.
For Anal Play:
- Anal Beads or Butt Plug:
- Insert during sex to enhance sensations for both partners.
- Always use plenty of lubricant and choose toys with a flared base for safety.
For Prolonged Pleasure:
- Cock Rings:
- Place at the base of the penis to enhance erection and stamina.
- Vibrating versions can stimulate both partners.
5. Explore Positions
- Adjust positions to accommodate the toy and enhance sensations. For example:
- Missionary: A bullet vibrator can be used on the clitoris.
- Doggy Style: A partner can hold a vibrator against your erogenous zones.
- Cowgirl/Reverse Cowgirl: The receiving partner can use a toy on themselves or their partner.
6. Keep It Playful
- Treat the experience as an exploration rather than a performance.
- Experiment with different toys, speeds, and pressure to discover what feels best.
7. Stay Connected
- Maintain eye contact, verbal affirmations, and touch to ensure intimacy isn’t lost.
- Pause if either partner feels uncomfortable or overwhelmed.
8. Clean Up Together
- After using the toys, clean them according to the manufacturer’s instructions.
- Take this time to reconnect and share what you enjoyed.
Tips for Success
- Choose the Right Toy: Opt for toys designed for couples, such as vibrating cock rings, dual-action toys, or remote-controlled options.
- Keep Spare Batteries or Chargers: Ensure your toys are ready for use.
- Be Flexible: Not every toy or position will work perfectly; be open to adjusting.
- Focus on Connection: Toys should enhance your bond, not replace it.
By communicating and experimenting, sex toys can become a natural and exciting part of your intimate moments.
